The Blonde Historian

We are a generation of idiots. Smartphones and dumb people.

Aziz Ansar’s Modern Romance deciphers how love, sex and romance has become fun, yet also complicated and distorted by modern times and changing technology. He believes the most intimate relationships our generation has is with our cell phones. It’s a time when human beings can be judged with a swipe of a finger (Tinder). A century ago people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Today, people spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate. And even after we find our soul mates, if we start feeling unhappy, we get a divorce.

Comedian Ansar used this book as a hilariously useful map of dating landscape in the digital age. This book was actually based on numerous research and study group experiments. Such as, Sherry Turtle (MIT social psychologist) expressing how younger people are so used to text- based communications, where they have time to gather their thoughts and precisely plan what they are going to say, that they are losing their ability to have spontaneous conversation.” She argues that the muscles in our brain that help us with spontaneous conversation are getting less exercise in the text-filled world, so our skills are declining. WOW!

I always say that I truly believe I was born in the wrong generation. We are more in love with the idea of love without grasping that it’s A LOT of work. Disney princess goals are not exactly realistic. Passionate love scientist estimate that this “honeymoon phase” usually lasts about twelve to eighteen months. But, how many couples actually last past that initial high before starting to worry about whether this is really the right person for you? This search for a soul mate and not being able to adjust when the romantic part of the relationship has peak shit gets real complicated.

For my lovers out their don’t be a pussy and quit on your love. Listen, respect and genuinely love your partner for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. And for the single folk out their set aside your smartphone and look up.